10 Sex Questions You've Been Afraid to Ask — Answered!

We know that sometimes things can get awkward, especially when it comes to what happens behind closed doors and underneath the sheets. Yes, we're talking sex. It can definitely be intimidating to ask your girlfiends or — gasp — your madre those really important questions you've been dying to know. It's okay, mi gente. We're here for you. 

From what to do if a condom gets stuck up there to your concerns about your smell, we have the 10 sex questions you’ve been afraid to ask — and all of the answers you need to read!

1. Should I Worry About His Porn Habit?

It’s normal for many adults to look at pornography as part of their sexual routine (especially when practicing self-love). In fact, some couples make it a practice to watch together. Unless you notice that your partner is watching illegal, underage or excessively violent porn, it’s not a big deal. As long as he’s not so addicted to it that he’s not giving you any real loving, allow him the occasional indulgence—or even experiment watching alongside!

2. Where is My G-Spot?

Research has found that all women do in fact have a G-spot, that magical area of the anterior wall of the vagina that’s said to be highly erogenous. If you’ve always wondered if you can find yours, well, you can! One easy way is to use a vibrator or wand with a curved end. Insert it and point toward the top wall of your vagina, halfway between your vaginal opening and cervix. If you’re feeling with your fingers, you’ll feel something a little rough and almost like the surface of a walnut.

3. Is Anal Sex Safe?

If your partner is asking to try this kinky (but completely normal) deed and you’re unsure, there are a few things you can do to stay safe and make sure you’re having fun. First, start slowly! The anus is very sensitive, so take the time to explore the region with a finger or small sex toy first before jumping into anal intercourse. Plus, don’t forget to always use a condom (safety first!), use plenty of lube to make penetration easier and never ever put anything from the anus into the vagina, and stop immediately if you feel pain. Otherwise, remember to relax and enjoy!

4. What Do I Do if a Condom Gets Stuck?

Embarrassing as it is, occasionally a condom can actually get stuck in your vagina and—yikes—what do you do? First, it’s important to understand that the average vagina is only about 3-4 inches deep but it will lengthen as you become aroused. Typically, if a condom is stuck, it’s just lodged up near your cervix. Usually all you need to do is get in a squatting position and use your fingers. However, if you’re not having any luck, take a deep breath and head to the emergency room. It will all be okay eventually, we promise.

5. Should I Be Worried if I Bleed After Sex?

You’ve just had a sexy romp with your man and you look down (or go to the bathroom) and—eek!—there’s blood. Now, assuming you didn’t just start your period, bleeding after sex can occasionally happen. If there’s only a little bit, it’s light in color and it only happens once (especially after a particularly rough romp), it’s probably just because of irritation or friction. However, if it happens again or there’s quite a bit of blood, make an appointment with your gynecologist immediately to check out if it’s coming from your cervix, uterus or caused by an infection. 

6. When’s the Best Time to Have Sex and NOT Get Pregnant?

If you’re not trying for a baby, it’s good to know when your lowest chance of pregnancy is. A woman is most fertile during the few days two weeks before her period, the days known as ovulation. However, keep in mind that if you’re not ready to have a baby (or not trying for a second or third one), the best way to prevent pregnancy is by using a method of birth control, like condoms (which also protect against STDs) or the pill. Keep in mind that even having sex during your period without any protection can still lead to an unwanted pregnancy.

7. Are Bumps on His Penis Normal?

Let’s face it: the penis can look a little weird and yes, men can have all sorts of lumps and bumps that are pretty normal. Some may be harmless, fibrous-type tissue that has built up under the surface of the skin, while others can be noncancerous mole-type growth. However, certain bumps (genital warts) can be a sign of HPV. If you’re not sure, ask him to check in with his doctor and see what’s up. In this case, it’s definitely much better to be safe than sorry.

8. How Can I “Tighten Up” Down There?

A common problem for women, especially those of us who have given birth, is ending up with a very loose vagina that makes sex not pleasurable for either party. Thankfully, there are plenty of exercises that can restore your elasticity. One of the best are Kegel exercises, which aim to strengthen your pelvic floor. To do Kegels, simply tighten your vagina muscles (it’s a similar motion as you would use to stop urine midstream). Start by doing these on a regular basis, first with slow repetitions and then with faster repetitions. You can even find apps to help!

9. What Do I Do About Smells & Sounds?

Ever, ahem, accidentally made an almost farting-like sound with your vagina? That sound is called a queef and it’s actually just air leaving your vagina. Typically, it just means you’re having a particularly exciting roll between the sheets. The other thing that worries us ladies, in particular when it comes to oral sex, is whether we “smell” down there. However, having our own natural scent is completely normal—and not something you should worry about. The only time you should worry is if you have a very strong fishy or ammonia-like odor, which could be caused by a bacterial infection. In that case, head to your gynecologist for a check-up. But if you put a finger in your vagina and only smell a bit sour, then you’re healthy. 

10. Is Sex During Pregnancy Safe?

For some women, emotions and hormonal fluctuations may actually raise your sexual desire during pregnancy. Whether you’re one of these lucky chicas or not, sex is typically fine as long as your pregnancy is proceeding normally. Sex won’t typically lead to miscarriage (that happens because of chromosomal abnormalities or other problems in the developing baby) and it won’t harm the baby, either. Most sexual positions are ok, but as your belly grows, you may want to try positions that involve lying next to your partner sideways or positioning yourself on top.