Working With Your Spouse: If J.Lo Can Do It, Can You?
04/11/2012 - 16:23 ||
Jennifer Lopez has made a habit out of working with every man she’s ever married or dated. Chris Judd was one of her back-up dancers. Ben Affleck starred opposite the Bronx native in Gigli and Jersey Girl. Marc Anthony has collaborated with her on music, film, fashion, and they are continuing to work with each other on Univision's hit show, ¡Q’Viva! The Chosen.
Current beau, Casper Smart, can also be seen strutting his stuff in her latest video, “Dance Again.” So is working with your significant other ever a good idea? We asked Dr. Carmela Pérez, PhD, a psychoanalyst in private practice in New York City, on the subject and here’s what she had to say:
Is it ever a good idea to work with your significant other?
Sure, there are many couples that work together. According to the National Federation of Independent Business, there are over a million husband and wife owned businesses. Working with your spouse can give you an appreciation for what they do.
What are some of the pitfalls of working together?
Couples may have a harder time shifting to home “mode” and could easily continue talking about work at home. Arguments about work can easily be brought into the relationship and vice versa. Some times it could feel like your spouse is more like a roommate or coworker.
How can you stop work issues from spilling over into your home life?
You both need to make an effort to leave work issues at work, or if you decide to have a work discussion at home, limit it to a set amount of time.
How much together time is too much for a couple?
In a healthy relationship both individuals appreciate and encourage each other’s individuality. That means that each person in the couple would also enjoy solo activities.