Your friends are all shacked up, married or engaged. When they invite you out, you’re the lone soldier in a sea of couples — and everyone has something to say about it. “Pobrecita!” they whisper. “Single...again,” another says, shaking her head.
No, really — stop! It is so frustrating to be constantly reminded of your single status by married friends and family. Here are just some of the annoying things that you hear as a single woman about finding love.
"Take this time to find yourself."
Knowing who you are and what you want in a significant other and a relationship is a must. Assuming that you aren’t a self-aware mujer is just irritating. Being single doesn’t mean being lost. You don’t have to go on a journey of self-discovery ala Eat, Pray, Love. Not only is it expensive, but it’s also insulting for friends to infer that you’re a hot mess because you haven’t met your match.
"I have a friend…"
Oh, don’t they all! Suddenly, you should meet this new mystery guy that’s “perfect for you.” Where was he before? If your girlfriend knew a great guy for you, she would have attempted a love connection ages ago. So she might have picked him up off the street. This random guy is her way of telling you to settle.
"Another one bites the dust."
You’re the only single chica in your crew. When a friend gets engaged and shows off the bling on her ring finger, another amiga looks at you and retorts, “Another one bites the dust.” How rude! This is her way of pushing you to date someone — anyone. She loves you, she really does. But she’ll love you more if you settle down.
"Your biological clock is ticking."
Your friends discuss your “options” to procreate, like using a sperm donor and artificial insemination. And whatever happened to that relationship pact with your male BFF? He’s still single, right? Marry him NOW! What your friends fail to remember is how adamant they were about finding Mr. Right — not Mr. Good Enough. Jog their memory when they mention your biological clock.
"Maybe you’re too intimidating."
Some men can’t handle a strong, independent and hard-working mujer, and those men are not for you. If a man is intimidated by your intelligence and CEO status, or feels emasculated because you have your life together, he needs to keep it moving. The last thing you need is to dumb yourself down or diminish your accomplishments. Next!
"Have you tried online dating?"
No, you’ve been sitting at home twiddling your thumbs, waiting for your principe to knock on the door. Of course you’ve been on Tinder, Plenty of Fish, Bumble, OKCupid, Match.com — and then some! Here's the thing: online dating doesn’t work for everyone. And that’s ok. What matters is that you’re being proactive.
"You’re never going to meet a guy at a bar!"
Your girlfriends say this with such disdain. It's like they forgot they once picked up random guys to hook up. The hypocrisy! Besides, you can meet a man anywhere. I know a few women who married their one-night stands. So if you like to grab a cocktail after work, then continue going to bars. And remember to have fun!
"You’re too picky."
Ay, I use to hear this all of the time. If I broke up with a perfectly nice guy, I was too picky. But when you know what you’re looking for, you don’t want anything but that. As Carrie Bradshaw once said in Sex and the City, you should refuse to settle for anything less than butterflies — no matter what your friends say.