Sexting 101: Best Messages to Get Him Hot, Not Bothered

Sexting 101: Best Messages to Get Him Hot, Not Bothered
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Whether you’re in a long distance relationship or looking to add extra touch of kinky to your relationship, sexting is the way to go. It’s free and easy to do — all you need is a bit of imagination and Snapchat.

You also want to add enough sex appeal so he doesn’t freak out (hey, you want to get him hot, not bothered). The goal is to make him feel like he wants to pin you against the wall and kiss you passionately after sexting — not question your sexual prowess. Here are some sexts to get you started:

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“Thinking of you makes me so hot my thighs are tingling.”

This sext will set the mood. That’s the trick about sexting, you have to ease into it. You can’t just abruptly mention putting his private in your mouth and giving him a BJ. Men need us to set the mood just as much as we need them to.

“My nipples are hard, are you?”

This visual language will depict your succulent breastesses (copyright: Jay Z) and he will eat it up. It also eases you into the heavier sexting that’s to come. Small breasts or big breasts, most men love to think about them and play with them. When they do, they’re often rearing to go.

A pic showing off the curve of your back.

You can’t have sexting without pics, and I’ve been told by men that the curve of a woman’s back is one of the sexiest parts of the female form. The reason? It’s subtle. The image leaves an impression, since it comes right before your Latina rump. This will also cool him down. You don’t want him too hot before you’re done with him.

“I’m licking my lips and thinking of your d--k.”

Speaking of what’s to come, when a man thinks of a woman’s mouth he often associates it with his Johnson. This sext will elevate your convo as he imagines you licking his lollipop. You should also say that you’re licking his lollipop. It will rev him up for the next sext. Think of this as third base.

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A sext only you two can understand.

Let’s face it — even sexting can get routine. There’s only so much you can say that hasn’t already been said or advised. That’s why you should make sexting personal. Take a moment that only you two shared — an inside joke, per say — and kink it up. I can’t tell you what that is or what to say. In the end, sexting to turn him on is on you. So think long and hard...and get him going.

Sujeiry Gonzalez is a love and life coach and the owner of LoveSujeiry.com. The author of Love Trips: A Collection of Relationship Stumbles and the soon-to-be released Dating RITE is also an on-air talent that’s been featured on Exitos 93.9FM, Telemundo, FYI, and many more.