7 Reasons to Venture into Tantric Sex

Whenever you hear the word ‘tantra’ you probably envision Sting and his wife, Trudie Styler, engaging in kinky sex. Candles lit, moaning that endures, “Roxanne” playing in the background though his wife’s name is Trudie: that’s what tantric sex is, right?

Though the Stings placed tantric sex on the map after Sting boasted of 4-hour sex sessions, tantra is less about marathon sex and more about connecting with your partner. Mark Michaels and Patricia Johnson, authors of Great Sex Made Simple: Tantric Tips to Deepen Intimacy and Heighten Pleasure, state that couples practice tantra to enlighten and respect one another. So it’s not only about long-lasting orgasms; though that sounds kind of nice.

Tantric sex also has many benefits. From boosting the immune system to strengthening your emotional connection, tantra may just be what your sex life needs. So hold on to your vajayjays, ladies! Here are some reasons to venture into tantric sex: 

1. Stronger Immune System

According to Scarlett Stack, a sociologist with areas of expertise in sex and gender, tantric sex boosts our immune system, which then prevents illnesses. “We all know tantric sex leads to longer orgasms,” she said. “More frequent and longer orgasms help strengthen your immune system.” Hmmm...tantric sex or extra vitamin C? It’s your call, chicas.

2. Reduce Inhibitions

Who doesn’t need to loosen up once in a while? Tantric sex leads to a loss of inhibitions. “Becoming less inhibited will improve your sex life and make you a better lover,” explained Michaels and Johnson. But will it lead to freeing behavior in all areas of life? The couple believes so. “Classical tantric sex rituals are designed to free the adept from the restrictions that prevail in orthodox Indian society. These rituals involve eating fish and meat, consuming alcohol, and having unconventional sex, sometimes across caste lines,” they said of the history of tantra. “In ancient times (and even today, in certain circles) to do these things was to violate some of Indian society’s strongest taboos.” In other words, tantric sex will set you free. Perhaps even of the dreaded que diran.

3. Learn to Be Present

We get busy. We are constantly snapping selfies and checking notifications. It’s hard to be presente in this digital age. But tantric sex can help us get back to center. “Many tantric practices are designed to develop and refine this ability, to make it possible for you to choose to be present when you wish to do so, in a sexual context or in any other aspect of your life,” Michaels and Johnson said. So lets put down our cell phones. Get to connecting via tantra. No sexting allowed.

4. Toned Body

Tantric sex does a physical body good, and we’re not just talking about orgasms. The stretching and breathing that is necessary when practicing tantra is much like what is used in yoga and pilates. Your abs will be to die for! 

5. Learn to Collaborate

Sharing is caring, and tantric sex allows couples to take a collaborative approach to relationships and sexuality. That’s because the participants in the tantric sexual ritual are “embodying the God and Goddess, which are believed to exist both within and around them,” explained Michaels & Johnson. “Practitioners worship each other as divine manifestations.” In tantra, men and women are equal. That equality brings on a fun and awakening collaboration.

6. Master Non-Verbal Communication

Are you talking to me? Maybe. Latinas don’t have trouble speaking non-verbally (mostly with our hands) but we may not always pick up on non-verbal cues. If you want to master the art of non-verbal communication, tantric sex may be for you. “The tantric approach emphasizes non-verbal communication and energetic connections. This can deepen a relationship,” said Michaels and Johnson.

 

Learning to master non-verbal communication is beneficial in life in general. “There’s a large body of research that shows we respond to an array of nonverbal cues at a level below conscious awareness; for example, recognizing an angry facial expression without even realizing it.” If you can pick up on non-verbal cues, you can strengthen relationships with very few words.

7. Clearer Complexion

If you’re so vain you probably think this sentence is about you, you’ll love this benefit of tantric sex - a clearer complexion. It’s well known that sex gives us a certain glow and boosts our immune system. According to Stack, tantric sex elevates sex to a higher level, leaving skin to glow for days. That’s about as long as your legs will shake from that ecstatic, extended orgasm.