This article originally appeared on YourTango, by Laura Lifshitz
He sees your forehead with "Hot Mess" written all over it.
You may wonder why you keep getting ghosted after a few dates. Maybe it's not that you can't start a relationship, but that you find that you can't sustain a relationship. To you, it must be that the "guys" are the ones with the problems, and of course, it takes two to tango.
But it may be that you're really a mess and don't even realize it.
You may be doing things that signal to your potential partners and partners that you're a hot mess. You may not even be "so messy" but may instead have learned bad relationship and life habits. Or, perhaps, you are truly a trainwreck in heels.
Whatever the case may be, you're signaling to guys that you are a bloody hot mess. Here are 10 signs you're a hot mess that makes guys run for the hills.
1. You cancel and reschedule.
Can't get a grip on your schedule? If you're constantly scheduling dates and then canceling, only to reschedule, your dates think you are a hot mess and a big fat flake. To you, it's just that life is hectic or you're juggling a lot; to him, it's that you can't get your act together.
2. You breakup and makeup with your friends.
Are you always on the "outs" with friends? To guys, that signals a lot of drama that quite frankly they don't want to hear about. Of course, we ladies do have our squabbles, but if a guy looks at your friends list and sees that you don't have many friends or that you're fighting daily with them — or worse, you're friends with other women who bring on the drama — he'll think you're a hot mess with a capital M.
3. You don't know how to communicate.
If you're that woman whose texting habits range from constant to distant, you're giving guys the impression that you're not really into them and you're clearly playing him and other men. Messy, messy, and messy.
4. It's either your way or no way.
Are you very adamant about the relationship playing out only as you would like it to be? Do you dictate the way everything runs from where he sees you, when he sees you, how he sees you and then some?
You don't only come off as rigid, but you also come off as a mess. Only an unstable person would refuse to compromise in a relationship.
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