We received a lot of interesting feedback when we first announced our new sex columnist Ann Marie Rios. It seems like some of you are open to the idea of having frank discussions about sex, while others do not approve of the career path Ann Marie has chosen. Either way, you have to admit that the girl knows her stuff, so why not read what she has to say? Maybe you'll learn something new!

Hola Ann Marie:

How do you let your partner know what you want and how you want it—especially if he’s one of these macho men who thinks he knows exactly how to please every woman? Please help me get the conversation started.

Amanda, Detroit, MI.

Hola Amanda:

Men aren’t always easy to talk to about sex. But let’s be real, they’re not mind readers. They’re not going to know how to satisfy us unless we share our desires. Be sure to start the conversation with your man at a time when you’re both free of other commitments. Begin by telling him some of the things that you really enjoy about your relationship and sex life. Suggest that he share any fantasies with you that the two of you can fulfill together. Then you can share one of your fantasies with him. If adult toys or novelties are involved, be sure to remind him that he is the main course, and those things are simply appetizers before an already amazing meal.

If a talk still sounds too intimidating, try writing him a sexy letter detailing your secret fantasy. Leave it somewhere only he can find it—maybe inside his lunch box or inside his car. You will have his engine going all day. Encourage him to write back! Tell him how much it would turn you on. Relationships can require a lot of work, but anything worth having and keeping always will. I know you can do it, girl. ¡Buena suerte!

Ann Marie Rios

Want to ask Ann Marie a question? Send her an e-mail at betweenthesheets@latina.com and she’ll get back to you as soon as she can.