Tonight on MTV Tr3s’ reality series, Quiero Mi Boda, we met Miami couple Rosanna and Jean, whose different cultures ushered in a slew of complications during their wedding planning. Rosanna, who was born in the Dominican Republic, and Jean, who was born in Canada to Haitian parents, had difficulty choosing which language to have their ceremony in. On top of that, both Rosanna, 25, and Jean, 32, have parents who are divorced, which added an additional layer of anxiety for the Miami couple.
Rosanna spoke to Latina.com recently about her episode, which aired tonight at 6 p.m.
Tell us about your episode of Quiero Mi Boda.
Overall, the experience was a little bit overwhelming because of the wedding planning, having family coming in from out of town, having to work, and having to film the show. Looking back at it now, we had an amazing time and we definitely feel grateful that we were able to share our experiences with the world. We can relate to the show – coming from different cultural backgrounds and all the issues that you have to deal with. Not a lot of people can say that they got married and its going to come out on television…and that people actually care about your story we had a great time filming.
You and your husband are both from different cultures. How did that affect the planning of your wedding?
It affected us a lot because he has such a huge family and my family is very small and of course, there’s the language barrier. We were trying to decide what language we were going to have the ceremony in – what we could incorporate into the wedding that’s going to fit into both cultures. Mainly it was the language barrier because most of his family speaks French and aren’t very fluent in English and my whole family speaks Spanish and they’re not very fluent in English either. We decided to have the ceremony in English because we felt that that was the standard that friends and both families would be able to understand the best.
You both tried to incorporate each other’s cultures in the ceremony. Why was that important to you?
It was very important not only because we were getting married and we were bringing both families together, but mainly because of the day that we chose. We unknowingly chose the day that our countries officially became two and they split apart [February 27, which is recognized as the Dominican Republic’s independence day from Haiti] so its very important for us to bring it back for everyone and remind everyone why we were there and why that moment was so special.
Did you and Jean disagree on any of the wedding details?
We actually disagreed on a lot of things, mainly because my husband is very opinionated. A lot of the times brides are like, ‘Oh no, my husband wasn’t involved in the planning and I wish he would’ve been more involved.’ But really, you don’t, because that just makes everything much more complicated. He had an opinion about everything – we fought from the linens to the centerpieces to the music that we chose. I think the only thing that he didn’t have a say in was my dress!
Both you and your husbands’ parents are divorced. Did that affect how you felt about getting married? If so, how?
That was definitely a huge factor. My husband is 32 now and most of his friends are already married and have kids – he was one of the last ones to get married. His parents were married for a really long time and they split when he was a teenager, which affected him a lot. His mom was really devastated after the divorce and he had to live through that. For me, my parents divorced when I was very young. I was the first person in my generation to have a wedding and to get married. In my family, there hasn’t been many weddings or an example for me of how a married couple should be, how you should properly raise a family. It was a big learning process for me trying to discover what I did want. When we chose to get married, it was like, ‘Whoa!’ I haven’t had a lot of exemplary couples in my family and his parents had a really bad divorce… so it had a big impact on us.
What advice would you give to other Latinas who are planning their wedding? My main advice is to enjoy every single moment, even the fights, the good times – everything. You spend so much time planning the wedding and when it comes down to it, it’s just one day. It goes by so fast that you don’t even realize that it’s over until it’s over and then you wish you could go just back.