Tonight on the MTV Tr3s’ reality series, Quiero Mi Boda, we meet 26-year-old Anny and 28-year-old Danny, a New York couple whose stark religious differences caused them to have a serious issues. Anny, who is a Catholic Dominican, struggled with planning her wedding with her fiancé Danny, who is Guyanese and of Hindu faith. After much back-and-forth the couple decided to hold two wedding ceremonies!
Anny spoke to Latina.com recently about the challenges she faced during her wedding planning and how much she enjoyed her big day. The episode airs tonight at 7 p.m. EST.
Tell us about your episode of Quiero Mi Boda.
I was very excited to be chosen to do the show – it was an awesome opportunity to tell our entire story – everything from how we met to where we met. I’m Catholic and Dominican and Danny is Guyanese and Hindu, so just trying to figure out where to start in planning a wedding for two different cultures and religions, that in and of itself was a challenge. The whole thing from figuring out if we’re going to do two ceremonies, one ceremony and cater to just one family, or cater to both families… that was something that we had to sit down and discuss with both sets of parents. At the end, we did both ceremonies to cater to both religions. Luckily, our families are very “Americanized” because when it came down to the reception and the party, we were all on the same page about that!
How did you and your husband meet?
We met at work, I actually trained him. We work in the communications field and we met 7 years ago. We were both frontline personnel and now we’re actually still in the same company, but on the management side of it.
Did you and your husband’s religious differences ever make you worry about how to plan your wedding?
It did – it definitely brought a little hesitation – ‘Do I really want to do this?’ There were even points where I didn’t even want to go through all of it because it just seemed like it was so much and so much to take in, learn and do. It was overwhelming. The Catholic ceremony is about 50 minutes long – you’re in and out. A Hindu wedding ceremony has a whole bunch of pre-work involved and post-work involved, not to mention the ceremony itself is 2 and a half to 3 hours.
You had two weddings. How did that work?
We had the Hindu wedding first because its seen as a very sacred and religious day where you can’t have alcohol, you can’t eat meat or anything of that sort, so it just made sense to have that one first. It’s also longer. The night before, there were some prayers going – I did not partake in that because I am not of the Hindu faith. The ceremony seemed so fast and, thinking back to it now, it’s a blur. My sari actually unclipped as we were walking around the fire – not a good moment [laughs]. That was it and the following day, we had the Catholic ceremony. My dad walked me down the aisle and it was very emotional.
You had a purely vegetarian meal after one of your ceremonies. How did you decide on that?
After the Hindu ceremony took place at the temple, because it’s such a religious thing, you have to fast leading up and including the day of the wedding. You can’t eat anything that came from something that once had eyes – you can’t have poultry, fish, eggs, nothing like that. So the strictly vegetarian menu was for the lunch that was served after the Hindu wedding.
What kind of music did you play at your reception?
At the reception, we had all kinds of music. Our families are into just having a good time. My dad, who’s like this old-school Dominican guy, was jamming and unscrewing the light bulbs to the Hindi music and stuff like that. It was a sight – my dad is a character. We played everything from to Hindi music to reggaeton, merengue, bachata… even the Electric Slide at one point. Or bachata slide – something like that!
Can Danny dance merengue or bachata?
Yea, he likes to think that he can [laughs]. He’s gotten the hang of it.
What advice would you give to other Latina brides who are trying to accommodate different cultures and religions into their wedding – as you did?
I would tell other brides to be patient. In retrospect, I went into it with a closed mind in the sense that I didn’t know much about it – sort of an ‘out of sight, out of mind.’ After a couple months, I embraced it and I took it and I ran with it. It ended up being a beautiful thing. The advice is to be patient and open and to really be accepting. There’s going to a couple things you’re uncomfortable with but at the end of the day, you’re doing it for the person you love.