EXCLUSIVE: Evelyn Lozada: "I can't control if Chad Ochocinco Cheats"

Puerto Rican Evelyn Lozada has been in the news quite a bit since announcing her engagement to NFL Star Chad Ochocinco on Twitter. It seems everyone wants to know why she chose Chad as "the one," the transition from basketball wife to football wife, and whether or not she's afraid Chad will cheat on her. We've got all of that, plus Lozada's advice for actress Eva Longoria.

Congratulations on getting engaged!
Thank you very much! It has been pretty crazy the last couple of weeks, but I’m excited about it. It’s so weird to me that people are so interested in who I’m dating and in my personal life. I will forever be that little Latin Puerto Rican girl from New York. The day we got engaged, Chad and I went to Church and as we were leaving, there was a camera crew outside and this reporter was yelling, ‘Let me see your ring!’ I was like, ‘Are you serious?’  Also, everybody has an opinion about your relationship so you have to have a thick skin.

Why is Chad “the one” for you?
We have such a good relationship. We sit down and talk and just have this connection. He understands me and I understand him. He makes me laugh and he’s very unpredictable at times—you never know what he’s going to say. Plus, he’s feisty—everybody says I’m feisty—and he is too so anyone that can keep up with me is a good choice.

As the future wife of a famous athlete, are you concerned that Chad will cheat on you?
It's not something that I worry about because if I did, I would go crazy. I really feel like that's not something I can control.  So if it happens, then it happens. I have girlfriends that are dating regular men that work on Wall Street and they have to deal with infidelity. Hopefully not, but I don't put anything past anybody. [Laughs]

Do you think basketball stars cheat more than football players?
Basketball players are very visible. You see them playing and it's not like they have helmets on. They're tall, so as soon as they walk into a room or a nightclub you can tell. With football, we go to events and some of Chad's teammates are there, and I don't even know who they are. That's the difference.

Before you met Chad, you were in a long-term relationship with NBA star, Antoine Walker. Did he cheat on you?
Yeah, we dealt with a lot of infidelity from early on. I met him when I was 23 years old, I had my own life and I was working for an attorney at the time. I had my daughter and I was doing my own thing. I ended up revolving my life around this man. He didn't want me to work anymore, so I thought, 'Oh wow, this could be great!' [Laughs]  So I ended up leaving my job and revolving my life around him. When he napped, I napped. I lost myself.

What did that experience teach you that you can apply to your engagement to Chad Ochocinco?
Chad heard me say during one of my interviews that I had lost myself and that I had revolved my life around a man, and that that's something I'm not going to do with him. I have my own business, a high-end shoe store called Dulce in Coral Gables, Florida. I also have a jewelry line coming out. So I'm not going to revolve my life around Chad and I think that's important. I want to have my own money and my own things to do, because if that relationship doesn't work…it was a nightmare for me when I moved out of my ex's house. I was just opening up my shoe store and I was thinking 'What the hell, I need to support myself and put my daughter through school.' So I need to make sure I have my own money and my own stuff.

As someone who's been there, what advice do you have for Eva Longoria, who recently discovered hundreds of text messages from another woman on her husband, Tony Parker's phone and filed for divorce?
I got the impression that Eva saw the text messages and she filed for divorce right away. She wasn't taking his crap. And I think that's the best thing you can do, because with me and my ex, I found, found, found and forgave, forgave, forgave. He got comfortable and that's the worst thing that you can do because he thinks he can do whatever and you're not going to go anywhere. If you find evidence or you know that your husband or your fiancé is cheating, then you need to leave.