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I Hate Sex!

Hola Dolores:

I have been married for about seven months, and I have come to the point where I hate sex! I used to love it when it was exciting and spontaneous. But now it’s like a job. I love my husband, but I think he expects sex from me every night. I feel suffocated all the time. I’m going loca over here, so please send me one of your famous consejos my was, por favor!

-Turning Frigid in Louisiana

Dear Frigid:

Relax mi’ja, you are just in overload mode from your husband’s fuego in the pants. It’s common among newlyweds. Before rushing to declare that too much of a good thing is a bad thing, try some of these: If you want a break, serve him up a little something three times a week. If you want to bring excitement and spontaneity back into your sex life, you have to become an active participant. Do not give into his daily routine, of wham-bam-thank-you-ma’am. Be creative and communicative. Or you can bide your time and enjoy his horn of plenty while it over flows. A few years from now you may be chasing him around the house trying to rub some of those Louisiana hot peppers on certain parts of his cuerpo.

-One way or another, talk to each other, Dolores

Niños Achtung!

Dear Dolores:

I’m a 34-year-old Latina married to a sweet German American for three years. We are very much in love but, as you know, interracial marriages can be difficult. I grew up in a large family with lots of children. So, I desperately want to have babies soon, but he really doesn’t want them as badly as I do. How can I make him understand this is very important to me without sounding selfish and self-centered?

-JW on the Internet

Dear JW:

I hear you, but you don’t mention what reasons, if any, he gives you. Does he not want to have children ever or not just yet? You should ask him, have an honest talk about it and come a to a decision. Remember, children should be brought into this world with both parents wanting them. If he’s just procrastinating you can drop some lighthearted hints. For example, on your next birthday, place a clock under his pillow, and when he asks what’s that loud ticktock, casually say, “Just my biological clock, honey.”

-Good luck, mujer, Dolores