The other day I received an email from one of my girls about an old friend of ours who recently got engaged.
A few years back, I worked with Billy, a guy who eventually became one of our closest friends. Aside from being comrades-in-arms at work, the three of us spent a ton of time together running around New York City. We stuck together during the rough times and were always there for each other.
The thing is, we aren’t really friends with him anymore. When he started dating his girlfriend (now fiancée) two years ago, Billy just sort of dropped off the face of the earth. My friend and I just assumed it was because his girl was a bit jealous of his relationship with us, "just friends" or not. At first, we let Billy know we missed him, then we shared our disappointment in our failing friendship. But nothing changed, so eventually we gave up.
So when I received this news the other day, my heart broke a little. Not because I've been harboring any romantic feelings for my old friend, but because I felt sad that I wasn’t a part of this major milestone in his life.
At the end of the day, Billy chose his romantic relationship over his female friends. And I would like to think he could have had both. Now I don’t know whether I should reach out to someone I used to consider one of my closest friends or just let it go, like he has.
Tell me ladies, should I congratulate Billy? Or would reaching out now just be weird? Do you think its possible for a guy to have close female friends and a girlfriend (or fiancée)?