Dolores dice...To Thine Own Self Be True
By Dolores | 05/29/2009 - 15:00

Dear Dolores:

I’m a young woman of mixed Native American, Latina, African and Caucasian background. I find it very hard to hear people say bigoted things about one of the races or cultures I am a part of. I’m somehow expected to choose sides, but I love all the cultures that make up who I am. My problem is that I have a Caucasian boyfriend who doesn't know about my mixed background. Should I tell him or just let him think whatever he wants?

—Samya on the 'Net

Dear Samya:

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Dolores dice...Fair-weather Friend?
By Dolores | 05/26/2009 - 16:30

Dear Dolores:

My best friend and I have known each other for many years. We do everything together and are there for each other—that is until she gets a boyfriend. Every time a new guy enters her life, our friendship takes a backseat. She won't call me unless he's out of town. Then when they break up, we go back to normal. She's now seeing somebody new while my engagement has fallen apart. I need her and she's not there for me! What can I do?

—Laura in Santa Barbara

Dear Laura:

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Dolores dice...Shame on You!
By Dolores | 05/22/2009 - 16:00

Dear Dolores:

I married my boyfriend, who’s a marine, during one of his weekend leaves. Unfortunately he got stationed overseas right away. I was so alone that I cheated on him with a married man— but I only did it because he left me. My family thinks what I did was wrong, and I don’t really know anymore. Dolores, what do you think?

—Confused in California

Dear Confused:

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Dolores dice...A Little Peace and Quiet, Please!
By Dolores | 05/19/2009 - 16:00

Dear Dolores:


All day long I’m being e mailed, voice mailed and instant messaged by my boyfriend, my mother, my sister and all my girlfriends. Do people have nothing better to do? I work for a living. How do I stop this?

—Cellmate in Alabama

Dear Cellmate:

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Dolores dice...Lighten your Load
By Dolores | 05/15/2009 - 13:05

Dear Dolores:

I’m a dark skinned dominicana in my late 20’s. I’m very proud and comfortable with my background and my looks. Apparently, the ignorant people who surround me are not. Too many of my Latino friends and acquaintances often make negative comments about people with dark skin. I hear them talk about how we have to “lighten the race.” I get yelled at for staying in the sun for a long time despite the fact that I’m a runner. I’m tired of reminding people of their heritage. How do I get them to stop insulting my complexion?

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Dolores dice...There's Always Vegas!
By Dolores | 05/12/2009 - 15:45

Dear Dolores:

My family is an uproar since receiving my wedding invitation with the “no ninos por favor” request. One of my aunts is bad-mouthing me, telling everybody I’ve become a bridezilla gringa. The truth is that my fiancée and I have attended enough chaotic bodas, where 25 screaming children on a sugar high run around unsupervised, knocking down everything in their path—and even in one instance, the wedding cake itself! Is it wrong to want an adults-only reception I can enjoy and remember fondly for years to come?

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Dolores dice...Grin and Bare it?
By Dolores | 05/08/2009 - 16:15

Dear Dolores:

I’ve been with my partner for two years. I love him very much, but he has a problem. He’s a porn freak. He loves it. I know it’s a guy thing, but I can’t stand it. We’ve had bad fights about it, but he always says, “It’s my fantasy. I can’t stop it.” I almost don’t want him to touch me or even look at me anymore. I don’t know what to do.

—Catalina in California

Dear Catalina:

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Dolores dice...The Truth Will Set You Free
By Dolores | 05/01/2009 - 12:00

Dear Dolores:

I’m 22 years old and have been lying to my mother for a long time. The lie is mainly about my virginity. I lost it when I was 15. I was in love, and still am, with the woman I did it with. She died five years ago, and I still can’t get over it. I know my mother is not going to have a problem with my being gay, but I worry about whether she’s going to be disappointed in me because I’m not a virgin. She always tries to hook me up with guys. Can you help me?

—Madame X in Brooklyn, N.Y.

Dear Madame X:

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Dolores dice...Attitude vs. Altitude
By Dolores | 04/28/2009 - 15:30

Dear Dolores:

A while back I met this great guy through a friend of mine. I really like this man and he seems to like me, too, but he won’t even ask me to dance, let alone ask me out on a date. I am sure it is because he feels intimidated because I am so much taller than he is. What can I do?

—Alta in Cyberspace

Dear Alta:

Short of walking on bended knees, your best option is for you to ask him out. That would take intimidation out of the equation and be his first lesson in walking tall regardless of stature.

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Dolores dice...Second Hand Rose
By Dolores | 04/24/2009 - 10:45

Dear Dolores:


I’m having a hard time choosing a novio. I’ve gotten many offers, but the problem is that all the guys who fall for me are my sister’s ex-boyfriends. What should I do?

—Que Hago in Mesa, AZ

Dear Que Hago:

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