I’m engaged to a wonderful Latino. We’ve been together for almost two years, and our relationship is everything I hoped it could be and more. The problem is that a year ago, I discovered he likes to paint his toenails. And it’s not just clear polish, he uses a variety of colors. My first reaction was one of utter shock. When he sensed my dismay, he was quick to remove it. Eventually he began to express how much he enjoyed painting his toenails and how good it made him feel inside. My hombre is wild in bed and most certainly very straight. I’ve tried to understand it, but I can’t stand the sight of nail polish on his toes. Am I making too big a deal of this?
—Carmen in TX
I think you are making too big a deal of this. I did a little research, and there seems to be a toenail-painting trend among younger men. Also, shouldn’t guys have as much freedom in the wardrobe and makeup department as we do? Some fashions come and go, while others take time to become acceptable. Today, nobody thinks that women wearing short hair and pants are masculine, or that men wearing long hair and earings are effeminate. Centuries ago our Amerindian ancestors went into battle heavily made up and fully accessorized with feathers and beads. In Roman culture, fierce warriors went to war in falditas y sandalias. Negotiate with your novio when and where he can wear his uñas pintadas without sending your discomfort level off the charts.
—That’s it, D
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