I’m currently making a lot of lifestyle changes: eating healthy, exercising, quitting smoking, attending college and developing a music career. I’m troubled, though, because many of the friends I’ve had for years are still drinking, smoking, eating junk food and lacking ambition. Worst of all, although I don’t relate to them anymore, I feel myself falling back into my old habits when I’m around them. I feel like I have outgrown our friendship, but I feel bad just cutting ties with them. Am I being big-headed?
—Rosalina in Minneapolis
Kudos for trying to lead a healthy life. It’s not easy tackling so many issues at once, so I understand your angst about your unmotivated friends. I don’t think you are being big-headed. It seems you still feel vulnerable about keeping yourself on the straight and narrow. You don’t have to cut off your friends from your life completely, but do allow yourself time and space away from them to strengthen your resolve. Once your fear of a relapse has dissipated along with the pounds, cook a delicious, healthy dinner and invite the gang over. You may end up influencing them.
—Good luck, D
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