My boyfriend and I have been together for nine months, but we have issues: who calls who, who will pay for dinner this time, things like that. This could be because of our age difference. He’s 23 and I’m 29. Right now I’m at the stage where I’m looking for something serious. I asked him where our relationship is headed and he answered with, “Are you ready with all your debt?” I do have debts, but what does that have to do with anything?
—Ms. Playa Larga in Cyberspace
Dear Ms. Playa:
Whenever you ask a man about the status of a relationship, you’re bound to get that deer-caught-in-the-headlights look followed by a confusing, conflicting or off-the-wall answer. See, they’re genetically incapable of answering that question in a rational manner. So, why bother asking? Save your breath and your money and take control of your budget for when the right guy comes around. You should know where a relationship is headed without having to ask.
—Buen viaje, D