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Dear Dolores:

I am 22 years old, have never been married and do not have any children. I just got engaged to a 26-year-old man who’s loving and considerate and who has four children from a previous marriage. My family and friends tell me to choose wisely because of his child-support burden. They say this will affect our relationship and my income. Should I marry him or should I move on?

—Dani in New Mexico

Dear Dani:

Hmm... Math is an exact science: Four niños is a lot of niños. Unless your novio makes a hefty salary, his disposable income will definitely be curtailed for many years to come. You may think that talking about money is unromantic, but so is never being able to go on vacation or to buy the home of your dreams. Even before you get near a calendar to pick a wedding date, you’ve got to talk about this matter with your novio so that you can walk down the aisle with eyes wide open, knowing what’s beyond the altar.

—Good luck, D

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