Sujeiry Gonzalez

Sujeiry Gonzalez is the Love Guru on Exitos 93.9FM,  a relationship writer and author of Love Trips. Get her relationship advice daily on LoveSujeiry.com.

Let the Past Be the Past

Leaving the past in the past has always been quiet difficult for me. I am a woman who, when vulnerable and in love, attaches herself for life—whether the man is reciprocating or not. Luckily, I am slowly shedding that aspect of my persona, attempting to experience something new and different. And that’s why I decided to reply to Zeus.


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No Chaser

I've never been the type of woman to chase a man...at least not in the beginning of a relationship. Sure, I've called a man while drinking at 4am because the relationship has gone awry. And yes, I have even written numerous emails to "express myself" when the man in question runs into his cave, refusing to return my late night phone calls and texts. But I’ve only yelled “Pick up!!!” at the top of my lungs to those special men who have affected me greatly.  Those are the men who have taken a little piece of my heart and my pepa™.


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The Numbers Game

Winking at someone online doesn't always guarantee success. Heck! Sometimes a wink is all you get. That emoticon in your Inbox can quickly become the only communication between you and the profile cutie that caught your eye, which makes online dating more of a numbers game than anything else.


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False Expectations

Most men don't have realistic expectations of the women they can actually seduce. In all actuality, the 45-year-old at the club thinks it's his duty to grind on the pretty, young thang just because she has on a miniskirt. This disregard for what a woman wants is simply incomprehensible and honestly, really irritating! I mean, can you please pull up your pants, articulate and be younger than my father if you’re going to approach me?


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Wink!

Setting up an online dating profile usually leads to an increase of suitors. Unfortunately, most of the suitors aren't really that suitable. Only 48 hours into OkCupid and I had garnered the attention of a gaggle of old geezers who thought I was "beautiful" and wanted to "chat". And did a mention a woman named Peaches peeked at my profile and send me an electronic wink?

Yes, online dating had already proven to be...interesting.  But I wasn't giving up quite that easily! Instead, I took matters into my own hands and began searching through profiles.


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Ready for Love

While throwing back birthday drinks, I vowed that at 32 I would stir up my romantic life. I hadn't had a date since Generous Stranger, and that date was more like an instantaneous meeting of two attractive and hungry souls than an outing.  Now more than ever I want to be wined and dined before dawn. I want to be picked up and dropped off at a respectable hour, called two days later, and do it all over again. It is time, ladies, for this lady to meet herself a man that is going to commit and love her reciprocally and unconditionally.


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Happy Birthday to Me!

To me, birthdays are a big deal.  I have to celebrate it on that very day no matter what day of the week or what special events coincide. So what if it's a cousins wedding? It's my birthday! April 16th is whose graduation? Sorry, I can't make it. It's my birthday!


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Living for Today

So far, 2010 has been really rough. In early February, my ex was violently killed, and on March 26th my Tia Argentina passed away after enduring a 3-month coma. All this tragedy has been devastating; but somehow it has also pushed me to release some of my fears and self-imposed limitations. I find myself wanting to take more chances. I find myself asking: "Why leave for tomorrow what I can do today?"


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Chasing Sujeiry

Like Sherlock Holmes, I'm ready to solve a mystery. I'm going to put on a deerstalker cap, jot down notes on a mini-pad and poke around bars and lounges for clues to my relationship conundrum. Why do men only pursue women who ignore them? I'll ponder as I observe men drooling over women who turn away with a roll of the eyes. I have no freaking clue, Watson.


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Surprise, Surprise

As far as technology has come, you'd think men would return emails, texts and phone calls in a timely fashion. Instead, they take days, weeks and sometimes months to respond as if messages were still sent on foot.  So you can imagine my surprise when The Trainer responded to the email I’d sent a week prior, asking him to send me a photo of himself. I mean, did he take a professional mall photo and get it sent for airbrushing? 


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