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Dimelo: "How Do I Get Him To Call Me His Girlfriend?"
Dimelo: "How Do I Get Him To Call Me His Girlfriend?"

Dear Pauline,

I've been dating this guy for two months and he calls me sweet names when I'm with him. He's also always nice to me, especially when I sleep over his house. I think I'm falling in love but I don't want to say anything too early. He hasn't asked me to officially be his girlfriend yet and I'm starting to wonder. Am I being used? Or is he just slow in the commitment department? What do you think?

Sincerely,

Esperando


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Dimelo: "Is My Boyfriend Having an Affair With My Best Friend?"
Dimelo: "Is My Boyfriend Having an Affair With My Best Friend?"

Dear Pauline,

A few months ago I started receiving anonymous texts saying that my best friend and my boyfriend were messing around. At first, I ignored them, thinking it was a bad joke. But then I started thinking, and friends started talking. I heard from one friend that my best friend has mentioned her "forbidden love" for a man who is in a relationship and has a daughter, which is just like my boyfriend and me. On the same nights he "picks up shifts at work" and I call her to hang out, she says she's busy. And for some reason, two of the most important people in my life always have an excuse for not being in the same space with me at the same time. I've known my girl since we were babies. She's closer to me than my own sisters. And my boyfriend might be a jerk sometimes, but he is the father of my little girl. I don't know if I should ruin a good thing by asking questions or pretend someone isn't trying to tell me something I would rather ignore.—La Textenovela 


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Dimelo: "My Abuela Is Obsessed With Appearances"
Dimelo: "My Abuela Is Obsessed With Appearances"

Dear Pauline,

My Colombian grandma grew up in a very looks-obsessed culture, which I'm pretty sure hasn't changed too much. Just as an example, my mom recently came back from Colombia and reported that the trendy gift for quinceaneras these days is a boob job or butt augmentation! I can't fault my grandma for being so focused on appearances since its how she grew up, but I wish there was a way I could tell her to stop constantly picking on my girl cousins and me about our skin, weight, hair, etc. Especially as someone who strongly believes this mentality is horrible for women's self-esteem and empowerment, I wish I could make it stop. If I hear her say "tienes la cara muy brotada" one more time I also might explode!


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Dimelo: "We Have a Baby On The Way–And We Can't Agree On Anything!"
Dimelo: "We Have a Baby On The Way–And We Can't Agree on Anything!"

My husband and I just found out we're going to have our first baby. We are very excited but I'm already stressing. He's white, I'm Latina. His family is very...opinionated. He and I have already started arguing about baby names (I want a Spanish name, he says it can't be too "ethnic" or his family won't be able to pronounce it), I want to baptize the baby and if it’s a girl, get her ears pierced but his family isn't Catholic and he says they'll think I'm crazy for piercing a newborn's ears. The list goes on.


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Dimelo: "I Want to Move Out of My Parents House–Without Breaking Their Hearts!"
Dimelo: "I Want to Move Out of My Parents House–Without Breaking Their Hearts!"

Dear Pauline,

I'm 23 and still living at home with my parents, mainly because they're convinced it's right for me to stay here until I'm married. I've got a job, can support myself, and really just want to live independently. I'm in no rush to get married, by the way. But I also don't see myself staying home for the foreseeable future. How do I break with tradition and find my own way without breaking my parents' hearts?

Sincerely,


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Dimelo: "I'm Not Sure I Can Handle My Boyfriend's Hidden Past. Should I Leave Him?"

Dear Pauline,

Today I found out that my boyfriend of one year has had a lot of sexual partners (I had an idea of how many, but not THAT many!). I also found out that he has done illicit drugs, which he’s admitted to doing twice in the time we have been together. I just don't know what to do. I really do love him but should I leave him?


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Dimelo: "Is My Boyfriend’s Mom Trying to Kill Me with Her Food?"

Dear Pauline,

I've come to the conclusion that my new boyfriend's mother hates me. He's invited me over for dinner on multiple occasions, and each time she has served me a meal made with nuts, to which I'm deathly allergic. She knows about my allergy—my boyfriend has reminded her time and again. On Thanksgiving, she once again extended an invitation to her home and my boyfriend practically begged me to come. I agreed, even stopping at the florist for a hostess gift. 


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Dimelo: "I'm Tired of Hiding That I'm Latina"

Dear Pauline,

I am a white and Puerto Rican woman living in southern Texas. Depending on how I dress, or do my make up or hair, I can appear to be either heritage. The problem? I am afraid, almost ashamed, to show my Latina side. I used to be so proud, letting everyone know that I was both white and Latina. But now I'm scared to identify with my Puerto Rican side because of negative attention. 


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