Dolores

Dolores dice...Debt Relief

Dear Dolores:

My boyfriend and I have been together for nine months, but we have issues: who calls who, who will pay for dinner this time, things like that. This could be because of our age difference. He’s 23 and I’m 29. Right now I’m at the stage where I’m looking for something serious. I asked him where our relationship is headed and he answered with, “Are you ready with all your debt?” I do have debts, but what does that have to do with anything?

—Ms. Playa Larga in Cyberspace

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Dolores dice...¿Es mentiroso ese hombre?

Dear Dolores:

I’m 22 and have been seeing this handsome 25-year-old hombre who really cares about me. He’s great except for one thing: He’s married to a 33-year-old woman with two kids. According to him, they’re having all sorts of problems. She’s horrible, never wants to spend time with him, goes off on vacation to Cancun by herself—the list goes on. Now he has invited me to go with him to Barcelona. I don’t know what to do.

—Going Loca in Texas

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Dolores dice...Arroz con Pizza

Dear Dolores:

I’m a Puerto Rican dating a non-Latino. Things are going pretty well, except at the dinner table. He only eats pizza, chicken or pasta. When he comes to family dinners he looks at the food in disgust and hardly touches the pernil and arroz con gandules. It makes me feel bad because my family’s always asking me why he doesn’t eat. Could food ruin our relationship?

—Ayúdame in CT

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Dolores dice...Rock the Cradle of Love

Dear Dolores:

My boyfriend just broke up with me because of our age difference; he didn’t want people to think he was robbing the cradle. I’m 17 and he’s 35. But now he tells me that if we get back together I have to change the way I dress and stop plucking my eyebrows, wearing makeup and going out with my amigas. I don’t know what to do because I love him very much.

—Confundida in Houston

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Dolores dice...Fat Fatale

Dear Dolores:

I have been with my boyfriend for seven months and I can honestly say I love him to death. He recently asked me to marry him, but a couple of weeks later he changed his mind. He told me I was not the one he wanted to plan the future with because of my weight. I was devastated. He’s 24 years old, 6-foot-1 and weighs about 300 pounds. I’m 20, 5-foot-5, weigh 160 and I’m considered quite attractive. He said that if I don’t lose weight he’d leave me. What should I do?

—RGV Chica on the Net

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Dolores dice...Pistol Packin' Mama

Dear Dolores:

I enjoy reading your column and try to take your advice on how to be an empowered Latina. But it’s not working. I am 34 years old, am divorced, have no children, am good-looking, own my own home and have a great career as a police officer. The problem is el machismo. The men around here can’t handle my independencia. I have to be tough at work, but I still want to be treated like a girl when I’m not working.

—Ms. Independencia in El Paso, TX

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Dear Dolores:

I’m a 29-year-old Latina newlywed, although I’ve been with my now-husband for nine years. Everything was okay until recently, when I ordered address labels with my apellido de soltera. He blew his top. This was never an issue before. I told him that I would change my surname to his once my career goals are well established. But we argue every day about the fact that I want to stay a Ramos and not become a Rosas just yet. I do want his last name, but when I’m ready to take it. Please help me!

—Tammy in the ‘Net


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Dolores dice...Talk is Dirt Cheap

Dear Dolores:

I don’t seem to be able to satisfy my boyfriend sexually. I’ve tried everything, but it’s of no use. He wants me to talk dirty to him, but I’m kind of clueless in that department. What am I supposed to say? Ayúdame, please!

—Lil’ Help Here, San Juan Capistrano, CA

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